Learning from a Bad Experience, Part 3 (TMF:2415)
Friday, August 09, 2024
Peace to Live By: Learning from a Bad Experience, Part 3 (TMF:2415) - Daniel Litton
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What I mean is that usually wrong can be done on both sides of a bad experience. It is true that someone else may have done wrong to us. They may have over-reacted, acting too strongly against us, or have added a few colorful things to what we did wrong. But the point here is that usually we did wrong too. It’s not totally them where the weight of the wrong should lay, but it’s also not totally us either. We can go the opposite direction in a bad experience and believe we are totally at fault, and all the weight is on us. But, usually, that is not that case. Typically it is somewhere in between the two. Anyhow, when we move past our self-righteousness and our self-pity about the situation, we can then look at it from the point of ‘What can I learn here?’ ‘How can I do better the next time?’ We can’t control other’s behaviors; we are not responsible for them. But, we can decide how we will act differently the next time. By taking the emotion out of it, we can then see room for growth.