Husbands Not Being Harsh, Part 2 (TMF:2845)

Friday, April 03, 2026

Peace to Live By: Husbands Not Being Harsh, Part 2 (TMF:2845) - Daniel Litton
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A super-nice attitude can sometimes lead to rejection from the woman, and the men do not understand why. There needs to be a proper balance. Nonetheless, within the marriage relationship there is supposed to be genuine love from the husband, and love which is not harsh. Genuine love shows proper affection and also is understanding of the wife’s feelings. Not being harsh means not being unforgiving when mistakes are made and also not being jealous, like in the case of the mother’s love for the children. Marriage relationships have been observed where proper love is not shown, where the man is distant and unaffectionate toward the woman. Knowing what is known from psychology, it is known that some men naturally struggle with being affectionate and available with their time due to their attachment style. So, some men may have a greater difficultly with this versus others.

Husbands Not Being Harsh, Part 1 (TMF:2844)

Thursday, April 02, 2026

Peace to Live By: Husbands Not Being Harsh, Part 1 (TMF:2844) - Daniel Litton
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Verse 19: “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them” (ESV). Notice the contrast in the wife submitting to her husband. The contrast is that the husband should love his wife, which means showing actual concern for her well-being and feelings, not domineering over her and treating her harshly, as Paul pointed out. It is true that a man does need to have a certain level of firmness with a woman at least initially when courting or dating her. And really, even into the marriage relationship. This is what causes the woman to respect the man. If a man is super-nice to a woman from the start, often the woman will not show him a proper level of respect. Women think it is weird when guys are super-nice for no reason, and this is often not understood by men who are trying to show interest in a woman. A super-nice attitude can sometimes lead to rejection from the woman, and the men do not understand why. There needs to be a proper balance.

Marriage- Traditional Model or Not? Part 2 (TMF:2843)

Wednesday, April 01, 2026

Peace to Live By: Marriage- Traditional Model or Not? Part 2 (TMF:2843) - Daniel Litton
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We also know, in considering women, that elsewhere Paul laid out certain clothing prescriptions, and even suggested (depending on how one interprets it) that woman should wear a head-covering. Uh-oh. Hardly any women within the church wear head-coverings, at least of the younger generations. Things are getting more difficult, then, in this discussion. But not to get too carried off by this, and without going on any further, it will be stated that it is believed that still now, in our current day and age, that at the very least this model presented by the Apostle Paul is the best practice that God has prescribed for the marriage relationship. One can argue that it is no longer relevant and the wife doesn’t need to submit, but this is what God originally setup, and so this is the model in this relationship that is going to work out best. Whether or not God knew that society would elevate women to be more equal to men is up to debate—it depends on one’s view of time, and whether or not time exists or not.

Marriage- Traditional Model or Not? Part 1 (TMF:2842)

Tuesday, March 31, 2026

Peace to Live By: Marriage- Traditional Model or Not? Part 1 (TMF:2842) - Daniel Litton
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And so, the question becomes, now that woman are more equal to men in society, does that mean that the traditional model of marriage is to be thrown out as well? The views when it comes to this question will differ dramatically among those in the body of believers. People having differing opinions. We know many churches to a greater extent want woman to be ministers, leaders in the church. They lead in business, so why not lead within the church? This is what we see and what some of us experience. We know several verses from now that Paul is going to be talking about bondservants and masters, and we know and certainly believe that simply because he talks about this subject it isn’t meant that slavery should still be practiced. And one will certainly point to this fact and say, “See, just as slavery shouldn’t be practiced anymore, so the wife submitting to the husband doesn’t need to be practiced.”

The Wife & Husband Relationship, Part 3 (TMF:2841)

Monday, March 30, 2026

Peace to Live By: The Wife & Husband Relationship, Part 3 (TMF:2841) - Daniel Litton
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So, the concept of a wife submitting to her husband can still be practiced in this day and age. It’s not impossible. Yet, obviously due to the influence of the more liberal American culture, surprisingly most among the Evangelicals don’t practice this model, especially considering the younger the couple. The American culture generally seems to teach that a husband and wife should be co-equal in authority, that the woman does not need to submit, and indeed, should not. Such a setup would be seen as archaic, out-dated, not for our times. It would even be seen by some as oppressive toward the women. To summarize, the common belief is that the woman should have equal power in all things as pertains to the marriage relationship. So, is the practice of the wife submitting to the husband still something that is to be practiced in our current times, or does it belong back in a world in which women were largely uneducated compared to the men?